I need some input please

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Comment by Jen McDonald on November 20, 2008 at 3:06pm

Hey Robyn, I'm 2.2 lbs away from 135 now so hopefully I hit it this week or the week after. It will be nice to stop giving ww my money week after week. No you don't have to pay if you are under your goal, only if you are more than 2 lbs. above your goal. 5lbs. would be a better cushion with my weight because it can fluctuate as much as 2-3 pounds just with TOM and water retention. I'm feeling pretty confident that I should be able to get to goal really soon... I just hope I can keep it there.Thanks, I really appreciate you taking the time to offer some suggestions.

Comment by Robyn on November 20, 2008 at 11:11am

ok...going to make this quick..gotta get back to work. But why not set your goal at 140 for WW...so you can quit paying the weekly fee...and IF you want to set your personal goal at 135, it would just be icing on the cake? Or can't you do that? Do you have to pay if you get TOO far under your WW goal?

Comment by Jen McDonald on November 20, 2008 at 8:31am

Lisa, Thankyou for all your great advice! As I said this weight is all new territory for me and of course I want it to be something I can maintain within my lifestyle. I think I am starting to realize that I must have some underlying body image issues/ self esteem issues I have to deal with. I think I do need to get used to the new me for a while. It's hard sometimes to accept yourself as you are when you never really have. I know Roni said it well when she talked about loving herself and accepting herself before she could really lose the weight. I never accepted myself then, but obviously at some point for me to be successful I will need to do this. I know how far I've come and I am proud of myself! Self acceptance is really new for me. My whole life I have always been on a diet of some sort, trying to get to a place where I was good enough. For the longest time all I said was that I just wanted to be within my healthy range. I didn't want to be considered overweight or obese anymore. Well I arrived at this and never thought I would question trying to lose more. I certainly want to be healthy and not get so wrapped up in always wanting to lose more. I think maintanance will be a real process for me, both in trying to keep the weight off and accepting the new me. I need to feel what it is like to just be at one weight for a while without the gaining/losing cycle I have been in for years. I don't know myself any other way. I'm eating my way up to 190lbs or I'm working to get the weight off. I hate to even admit this but "dieting" has really become very much a part of who I am. I am the girl who is always trying to lose. I know this comment is really long but I think getting my thoughts out like this has been really helpfu. I really appreciate the feedback and support!

Comment by Jen McDonald on November 20, 2008 at 1:05am

Thanks for the input Tish. Had my weigh in tonight, as I expected after my less than perfect week I managed to stay the same. Better than a gain I guess. I think that I will aim for 135lbs and try to see if I can maintain this. I think that the running will definately help. I'm so excited for you to get to goal. You are so close.

Comment by Tish on November 19, 2008 at 11:35pm

Hi Jen. That's a really hard thing to decide. I'm 5'4 and 1/2 inches. At WW, I claimed 5'5" because they don't do 1/2. That said, at my age (57) and with my build, I set my goal today with a note from my doctor. I chose 163 as a goal. That's my WW goal. I would really like to lose about 10 more pounds than that for my personal goal--about 3 pounds over the top of the WW range, but I'm pretty content with the way that I look and feel now and by 10 more pounds, I know I'll feel great. I didn't want to have to fight to keep my weight within their goal. I really think it's unrealistic for me. I have never weighed under 150 in my adult life and spent most of it around 200 or more. Maintenance is not going to look much different for me than what I'm doing now. If I continue to lose down under 160, great. If not, that's fine too. I know about that fat picture in your head--mine is almost indelibly there and I still double take when I see myself in a picture or in the mirror. From what I see, in your photos, you look great. There's nothing in the rules that says you can't go to your personal goal, if 130 or 135 seems doable and sustainable for you, but be careful about setting a WW goal that is too difficult to keep. Also, I think some women tend to look scrawny around the face if they try to maintain too low a body weight. Way too long a comment. Sorry. Good luck with your decision.