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Friend acting very weird, almost hurtful
I was in bad shape yesterday. Kind of a basket case. I was trying to figure out why and realized it was probably a combination of things. The biggest is that our upstairs neighbors, people I considered friends, moved out on Tuesday.
It's a girl and a guy. The guy is fine, I feel the same about him as I did before. He just does whatever the girl says to do (they aren't dating, though, so go figure...maybe he's in love with her).
ANYWAY, she has been talking about moving to another town, going back home (Canada), changing jobs, moving to a place by herself, etc. for a very long time now. I was used to it and it never seemed to turn into anything. But this past Saturday she made a decision to move out with her roommate to another place and was gone within days.
It's probably for the best because she was way too much drama for me but I thought the guy was going to stay and get a roommate. Then she decided he was going with her. They have rented the place upstairs to another guy and his friend who haven't moved in yet.
Anyway, it really felt like she was just moving to get away from us (my husband and I) although I am sure it is much more than that. It isn't that I miss them as much as it is kind of a big change. I'm used to them being there and the idea that we might run into each other in the backyard and chat. Plus my dog liked their dogs and they used to play.
It all just feels like kind of a betrayal. Like she just got tired of her life and everyone in it and so she just moved out of it. I mean, I thought we were friends. I saw them loading up the uhaul and said hi, etc., and then went back inside. I thought maybe they'd knock and say good-bye but nope. Just drove off.
Granted, they aren't that far away and I am sure I will see them again but I'm not sure how much of my time and energy I want to invest in people who might do something like this. I know she has some emotional issues, etc., but it's like she left an emotional wake on her way to her "perfect" life.
I ate for emotional reasons because of this but it wasn't really too bad. I guess that's a victory. And it will be easier to diet without her there because she always wanted to eat out and bbq and stuff. A really mean part of me wants to lose a bunch of weight and look really good so she is jealous. SO petty :) But it would be motivation.... Ugh!
It's a girl and a guy. The guy is fine, I feel the same about him as I did before. He just does whatever the girl says to do (they aren't dating, though, so go figure...maybe he's in love with her).
ANYWAY, she has been talking about moving to another town, going back home (Canada), changing jobs, moving to a place by herself, etc. for a very long time now. I was used to it and it never seemed to turn into anything. But this past Saturday she made a decision to move out with her roommate to another place and was gone within days.
It's probably for the best because she was way too much drama for me but I thought the guy was going to stay and get a roommate. Then she decided he was going with her. They have rented the place upstairs to another guy and his friend who haven't moved in yet.
Anyway, it really felt like she was just moving to get away from us (my husband and I) although I am sure it is much more than that. It isn't that I miss them as much as it is kind of a big change. I'm used to them being there and the idea that we might run into each other in the backyard and chat. Plus my dog liked their dogs and they used to play.
It all just feels like kind of a betrayal. Like she just got tired of her life and everyone in it and so she just moved out of it. I mean, I thought we were friends. I saw them loading up the uhaul and said hi, etc., and then went back inside. I thought maybe they'd knock and say good-bye but nope. Just drove off.
Granted, they aren't that far away and I am sure I will see them again but I'm not sure how much of my time and energy I want to invest in people who might do something like this. I know she has some emotional issues, etc., but it's like she left an emotional wake on her way to her "perfect" life.
I ate for emotional reasons because of this but it wasn't really too bad. I guess that's a victory. And it will be easier to diet without her there because she always wanted to eat out and bbq and stuff. A really mean part of me wants to lose a bunch of weight and look really good so she is jealous. SO petty :) But it would be motivation.... Ugh!
3 Comments
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Comment by Jeni on June 11, 2008 at 4:26pm - ((HUGS)) People do inexplicable things we just have to learn that we can only control our reaction. Which while it sounds easy is hard. Don't let it get you into a funk. I say...make plans this weekend with your other friends. :)
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Comment by RollerCoaster on June 11, 2008 at 5:40pm - Thanks for the comment, Jeni. Luckily I am off to Disneyland with my family so I'll have plenty of other great stuff to take my mind of her weirdness. :)
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Comment by Leah Danyell on June 11, 2008 at 6:02pm - This chick sounds flighty and very controlling ( or perhaps codependent). I don't know that this isn't a blessing in disguise. Did she want everyones world to revolve around her? She seems like a drama queen to me (shrugs). I wouldn't worry to much about her, she's certainly not worried about you. I seriously doubt that this person knows what friendship really and truly is and was blessed to have you in her life.
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