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Funky Friday
Can't seem to get out of this funky mood. I'm partly sleepy, partly PO'd over stupid work issues, and really PO'd at my daughter.
Stayed out too late last night at my friend's Pampered Chef party, then helped her drink some wine, got to bed after midnight, up at 5:30..then spent the morning getting ready for work and arguing with my daughter over some chores she claims to have done but really hadn't. Sorry, but it ticks me off that she will sit around all day while I work, go to the gym, come home and cook, and not do a darned thing but expect me to still have energy and time to clean the house!!!
I gave her a short list yesterday, she did about 10% of it. Clean our tiny bathroom, dust and run the sweeper. That's it. Dusting was kind of almost halfway started...vacuuming didn't appear to be started at all. The bathroom smelled fresh like pinesol, but there was still hair everywhere, a dirty mirror, the toilet not done, the floor not done (relax, it's tiny), and the vanity/sink not even touched! She did the shower surround and did the tub, although she didn't get the tub terribly clean...it still felt dirty and gritty when I took my shower this morning.
All this from a girl who wants me to buy her EVERYTHING - contacts, clothes, itunes cards, shoes, hair stuff, etc etc... - but doesn't wish to work around the house to earn some of it. And to top that off she failed science this year and I need to pay for something called a Keystone Packet that she must complete in 6 weeks and mail back in to the state to avoid summer school or repeating the class. (115$)It irks me. To say the least. Am I being unreasonable in expecting her to help out?
Don't even get me started on what a pig-stye her bedroom is. OMG
And it's Friday, not payday Friday, but still the weekend is here. I am scrapbooking tonight with the friend who I drank the wine with last night, and my perpetually out of town DH is due home tonight...I suppose in another week or so he'll be on the road again.
I have WI tomorrow morning - struggling to stay OP (but still doing it)- wish me luck!!
Stayed out too late last night at my friend's Pampered Chef party, then helped her drink some wine, got to bed after midnight, up at 5:30..then spent the morning getting ready for work and arguing with my daughter over some chores she claims to have done but really hadn't. Sorry, but it ticks me off that she will sit around all day while I work, go to the gym, come home and cook, and not do a darned thing but expect me to still have energy and time to clean the house!!!
I gave her a short list yesterday, she did about 10% of it. Clean our tiny bathroom, dust and run the sweeper. That's it. Dusting was kind of almost halfway started...vacuuming didn't appear to be started at all. The bathroom smelled fresh like pinesol, but there was still hair everywhere, a dirty mirror, the toilet not done, the floor not done (relax, it's tiny), and the vanity/sink not even touched! She did the shower surround and did the tub, although she didn't get the tub terribly clean...it still felt dirty and gritty when I took my shower this morning.
All this from a girl who wants me to buy her EVERYTHING - contacts, clothes, itunes cards, shoes, hair stuff, etc etc... - but doesn't wish to work around the house to earn some of it. And to top that off she failed science this year and I need to pay for something called a Keystone Packet that she must complete in 6 weeks and mail back in to the state to avoid summer school or repeating the class. (115$)It irks me. To say the least. Am I being unreasonable in expecting her to help out?
Don't even get me started on what a pig-stye her bedroom is. OMG
And it's Friday, not payday Friday, but still the weekend is here. I am scrapbooking tonight with the friend who I drank the wine with last night, and my perpetually out of town DH is due home tonight...I suppose in another week or so he'll be on the road again.
I have WI tomorrow morning - struggling to stay OP (but still doing it)- wish me luck!!
8 Comments
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Comment by ronji on June 20, 2008 at 12:54pm - Good luck with you WI tomorrow!! No you are not being unreasonable at all...you have to earn what you want...we do it everyday when we get up and go to work. It is hard to be a teen these days...but housework is not hard at all and it's a skill she needs to have if she expects to move out and be on her own someday. Don't let it stress you out...but I would hold her accountable for her chores...we all need accountablity in our lives :)
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Comment by SaucyWench on June 20, 2008 at 5:50pm -
I so hear you! My stepson has very few, relatively easy chores he needs to do every day: feed the dogs, let the out to go potty, wash the dishes, bring your laundry to the laundry room. Not difficult. Yesterday he asks me, "Do you have any clean clothes for me?" My response, "Did you bring your dirty laundry to the laundry room?" Blank stare. Sorry, kiddo, I didn't sign on to be your maid. I can't wait to see how he does when school starts!
Also, my DF is "working from home" (ie: playing video games and going out on a job every other day) and also "looking for work". Is the house clean when I get home from my ELEVEN hour workday that includes an HOUR drive each way, and giving up my lunch hour to exercise?? Nope. And I've decided I'm not picking up after him, either. My stuff: clean. He says the house is a mess, I point to his stuff and say, "Well, then take care of that and it will be a little neater, won't it?"
Oy. That's all I can say. Oy.
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Comment by Amanda (formerly Grace) on June 20, 2008 at 7:12pm -
Good job staying on point! Hope your WI goes well!
Oh and I don't think you're being unreasonable with your daughter. My mom rode my butt to do chores- and sometimes I wish she would have been a little harder on me. I'm very clean now- but I was kind of a slob when I lived with them. Good luck with your daughter!
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Comment by Arlene on June 21, 2008 at 5:12am -
Congrats on staying OP, even if it has been a struggle. I'm sure your WI will be great.
Doesn't sound to me like you're being unreasonable, but I'm sure your daughter disagrees. :D
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Comment by Crista on June 21, 2008 at 7:08pm - hope you have a better weekend.........have fun scrapbooking..one of my favorite things to do! hope WI went well...
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Comment by Rhonda on June 21, 2008 at 9:41pm - Keep up the great work. I know how stressful a teen can be. I was one lol. Hope she learns to help out and earn what she wants.
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Comment by Robyn on June 22, 2008 at 9:20pm - Ah Michele...we're 2 peas in a pod! I have 2 teenagers...and I don't think I expect TOO much from them. But its a constant battle. I have a 4-level/split house. My daughter is responsible for dusting and vacuuming the bottom 2 levels. And clean the bathroom she uses..included the shower, the floor, and vanity/mirror. My son dusts/vacuums the upper 2 floors, the bathtub and the vanity and mirror. I finally had to lay down the law. "If it isn't done by Friday night at 9:00 p.m.....they can forget about doing ANYTHING with friends for the weekend!" They are basically grounded if they don't complete it! So far, so good.....although they aren't always the most thorough. But I guess it's better than nothing. Now...on the bedroom thing! I've almost written that one off! I choose not to fight that battle often, so just shut the door. But when it gets TOO bad, I just go in and take everything from her dressers, the desk, the ledge all the way around her room...and I pile it ALL on her bed. That way she HAS to do something with it before she can even crawl in and sleep! And she knows better than to throw it on the floor! Hang in there! We'll make it through!
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I remember giving my mother the same sort of grief during the summers...just something about teenage girls, I guess! GOOD LUCK with this and the WI! You'll do great. I love reading your blog because you are so motivated - and that motivates me. So thank you!